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Date Your Mate!

By The National Healthy Marriage Institute LLC

What would happen if you only made withdrawals from your checking account? For awhile everything would be just fine but eventually your balance would hit zero. The same is true for your relationship account. Because neither of you are perfect it is impossible not to make withdrawals from your relationship bank account. As long as the sum of your deposits are greater than the sum of your withdrawals then you will never have to experience relationship bankruptcy.

Going on dates with your spouse can be a lot of fun and is a great way to make deposits into your relationship account. For hundreds of fun date ideas visit
http://healthymarriage.org/fundates.htm or for hundreds of stay at home date ideas visit http://healthymarriage.org/homedates.htm

If everyone who reads this tip decides to start dating their spouse on a weekly basis guess how many couples will actually do it? Zero! You can't just decide to do something you have to do it. Deciding is just the first step. All actions begin as thoughts but not all thoughts become actions.

If you want the thought of dating your spouse on a weekly basis to become an action we recommend you use a Track It To a Habit Log TM. This tool can help you establish the habit of dating your spouse every week. To print the worksheet click here. Instead of scoring yourself on a daily basis, score yourself on a weekly basis.

We also would encourage you to sign up for the free Date Night E-Newsletter. Each week we will send you a fun date idea, activity to do on your date to strengthen your relationship and a money saving coupon if available in your area. You can sign up by going to http://server1.streamsend.com/streamsend/signup.php?cd=5115&ld=7

And don't forget the ground rules for the healthy relationship dating program.

1. NO FIGHTING

It is critical that you commit to making your dates a conflict free time zone. The reason why you are going on the date is to strengthen your relationship and fighting will only damage it. As soon as you feel a conflict coming on take a time out, commit to discussing the issue at a specific time in the future and immediately start a trip down memory lane by sharing some of your favorite memories you have had together.

2. No talking about problems.

There is plenty of time in the week to discuss problems. While you are on a date should never be one of those times. Dating is a time for having fun and strengthening your relationship.

3. HAVE FUN

Get out of your comfort zone so you can create memories that will last a life time.

There is a story about a farmer who spent all of his life plowing fields but never planting them. Reading these tips but never implementing them will get you the same results as the farmer who plowed but never planted.

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